Kate Spade Gena Pump DIY

The Kate Spade Gena pump was love at first sight. I am crazy for a black shoe with a twist. But seeing it made me think of the graveyard of black pumps that I own that get no love. So instead of buying them, I pulled out this little pump that I’ve had in my closet primed for this DIY. 2D642F61-C872-4B59-9D3B-4420C3238AB1

It’s so simple that you barely need an instructional guide from me but here it is anyway. In addition to wanting to make this shoe, I had a pearl bracelet break recently. It was an inexpensive one that you give to little girls but I’d gotten it as a Christmas present in high school from a friend I at one time held very dear and I wanted to preserve it. Instead of fixing the bracelet that I stopped wearing regularly, I decided to incorporate it into the shoes. I used three of the little pearls on each of the straps to make this happen. I supplemented those little pearls with suede cord that I found in the ribbon aisle at Joann Fabrics.

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I sewed small tabs to the back of the shoes  I hot glued the tab closed first that wove it into the back of the shoe. The shoes lining is leather so I made sure to use a thicker quilting needle. Then I sewed the little pearls to the ends of my suede string and tied them through this loop.

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I am sure you could make magic happen with this shoe in any color with any heel height. I could even see you getting crazy and making this happen with a red ribbon substituted in for the suede strap. Let me know. Do you have a pair of pumps you need to convert to get more love out of them?

XO Prepford Wife

 

Gift Guide for Your Sister in Law

This is my favorite gift guide so far and I almost didn’t finish in time. Tomorrow is the last day for most businesses to get items to you by Christmas so this is actually perfect timing.

My husband and I have been together for almost a decade and in that time, I’ve picked every single gift for every member of his family since the very first holiday. (I like to gift buy and sometimes you need an objective view.) Aside for him, I do the most gift buying for his sister. We spend a decent amount of time together and throughout the year, I find myself picking up tidbits of things for her here and there. We have pretty similar taste, hers just has a bit more edge to it while I tend to air on the side of “honey, I’m home”.

So if you have a college aged sister, one or two of these goodies may work for a last minute gift for her. As per usual, quite a few of these items are small business items like the lapel pin (which is sold out but my sister in law would LOOOOOVE it and Effie’s paper has so many other items though they will not reach you by Christmas necessarily), the women’s march pillow,  earrings and escape bag. SIL gift guide.jpg

Coat // Lapel pin // Elephant earrings // Rain boot // Pillow // Roll up //Tote //Watch band //Escape Weekender

Bonus: Here’s a quick gift guide if your sister in law is a bride to be. Mine isn’t but I couldn’t resist a few of these goodies.

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Forever bag // Ring holder // Feyonce shirt //  Always glasses // Blue Shoe // Forever

Cute Apple Watch Bands

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This post is long over do. Every time I post an apple watch band, I get quite a few questions about it. Yesterday was no exception. I wore this beautiful pink confetti band on Instastory that I purchased right after I got the watch because I knew it would be a hit for Christmas and it was one several people asked about. Some I’m compiling a list of my favorite apple watch bands that are both utilitarian and discreet. The one I wear most often is the double tour band modeled after the Hermes band that I simply refused to pay for. I grabbed a few on Amazon for less than $20 each and I juggle between the red, the blush and the classic brown leather. More often than not, the one you will see me wearing is the red. I also get excellent wear from the Apple Sport band (which isn’t included here) because I can swim in it without it getting a strange smell like the leather will after some time if you dab perfumes or oils on your wrist.

 

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Also keep in mind, if you end up purchasing a double tour band of your own that you have to wear in it in just the right spot so that the Apple Watch is still close enough to read your heart rate and activity.

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So there you are. A round up of my favorite Apple Watch Bands as promised.

XO PrepFord Wife

 

 

What’s in a name, Prepford?

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I finally caved and bought the rights to Prepfordwife.com (it’s how you got here today unless you followed the link in the bio). My social media presence has been Prepford Wife every since my husband thought up the puny little name six years ago for my tumblr account. We were engaged at the time and eventually would marry and so why not incorporate that name into my account early.

With a simple click and a complicated password and, eventually the purchased of my domain name (two days ago! Woohoo!), I was easily Prepford Wife. In my real life? Not so simple. I have been married over three years as of last fall and still wrestle with the concept of changing my last name.

I love my husband and I love his name but I just can’t seem to shake the feeling that it’s a problem to change it. While I am of the “feminist, hear me roar persuasions” it has less to do with the idea of ownership, since my current last name belongs to my father and my new last would belong to my husband (honestly down with the patriarchy. I belong to no one). But also to do with emotional labor as it pertains to women, why should I have to do all the work on the name front? Why are women responsible for sitting in the social security office and changing their names.  I didn’t marry myself, I feel like my husband should have to do some of the work as well.

But it also has to do with the importance of names and naming in my life. I am someone who remembers everyone’s name, first and last, if you tell it to me. I remember instagram handles and their spelling.  I will remember your name if we have only met once ten years ago. I have names picked out for children I may never have based on meanings because I think what you name someone is important and determines a lot of their path in this world. My name is Victoria and my husband’s name is Marcus and together our names mean “Victorious” “Warrior”. Yikes. That’s a recipe for intense arguments if I’ve ever seen one.

But I digress, when you first meet someone, even if they are insignificant in your life and you may only see them once, all you have of them is their name. We place a lot of emphasis on them from how people of color with unique names are judged in interviews to how trendy moms keep  changing the spelling of “Aiden”, all you know about this person is their name. It’s their entire being. That’s a concept that’s so important to me and I carry it with me. And I feel the same about myself.

All I am is this person that I was for the first twenty four years of my life and because I married a man who is apart of my life, but not a part of me, I should change this very defining characteristic about me. I just have a very hard time wrapping my mind around the concept. And I love him and I want us to share a name and be a family. One unit. But he is not the one who will have to change his very being to make it happen. He is not the one who has considered changing his very being to make it happen (because tradition? idk). Are we not partners in this thing called life?

I am not sure that I ever reached a conclusion about what to do but for now, the PrepFord Wife is still just the PrepMaiden Wife. In real life I’ll continue to use my maiden name and on the internets and in monograms, Happy Wife Life. Until checks start rolling in with Ford then I might consider. LOL.

Tell me, what did you do? What do you plan to do? Do you even take stock in names meaning things?

XOXO PrepFord Wife Sorta

Gift Guides for Kids (That aren’t mine)

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I don’t usually subscribe to gendered gift lists but this seemed to be the easiest way to categorize. However, feel free to dabble from either list for whatever gender your little one may be, as well as the neutral gender list I put together. I give off over indulgent auntie vibes so some of these are a little expensive, especially for a child that isn’t yours and/or if you’re buying for multiples but I couldn’t resist adding a few. Perhaps just take the spirit of the gift into play.

The gift that I can’t seem to recommend enough, this year and every year, is always a book. Yes, I’m that aunt. My husband has been in love with me since the very first time we met (true story, not just hubris) so by our first Christmas together, a mere two months after we started dating, freshman year of college, we knew it was forever. I say that to explain the next very wild statement.

Since our first Christmas together at 18 years old, we having been buying children’s books for our non-existent future children. A little young and fresh in the relationship to be thinking about reproducing. But after a decade of Christmases and other gifting holidays, we’ve amassed quite the little collection. After all this time the break down seems to be that Marcus buys rationale classic stories (Corduroy, Frog and Toad, The Very Hungry Caterpillar) and I air on the side of Femininist, African and Indie books (Mufaro’s Beautiful Daughter/ Jumbo Means Hello/ Bad Girls Throughout History). Our children will absolutely have a well rounded reading collection.

Coming in this year for my gift book is “Little Leaders” by Vashti Harrison falling into the “girl’s” guide. Beautifully illustrated and very informative, it’s a great gift regardless of your child’s gender or race and I can not recommend it enough. My copy came in yesterday and I pretty much just cried flipping through it from the beauty of it all. Aside from that being my number one, everything else has my childless stamp of approval.

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Little Leaders // Maeva Doll (Doesn’t her outfit scream me?) // Hooded Personalized Minion Towel // Princess Duvet Cover // Taco Purse // Party Razor Scooter // Cat Emoji Earrings

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Drone // Personalized hooded minion towels  // Harry Potter Lego // Storm Trooper Vtech Watch// Astronaut Duvet Cover // Razor Scooter //Paw Patrol Robo Dog and Vehicle

I just recently got as prissy as I am and in my younger years would have honestly preferred the astronaut themed duvet. (Gifting Key to success: know your audience) With that in mind, my favorite list to put together without fail was the gender neutral list. I’m on a kick about gender roles and emotional work and equitable distribution of labor in households lately and I seem to have taken it out on this list. That kick includes teaching our non-existent sons from a very young age how to manage a household and be gentle and vulnerable in safe spaces (i.e. at home) and it starts from a young age with just learning to play pretend in a way that is safe like encouraging them to take part in house. But also teaching our daughters to canoe and kick predators in the face and build houses because they’re all skills a modern girly should have. So there’s that about that and I present to you my favorite list.

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Farmer Says Classic// Cash Register // Knex Thrill Ride // Frankie Beats Bat Boogie Has the best reviews I’ve ever seen for a talking toy// Day Trip Plush Canoe (Please buy this for my future child) // Melissa and Doug Fridge Play Food // Hearth and Hand with Magnolia work bench // Jetaire Camper Playhouse

And the item that isn’t included on this list but I encourage you to buy for my future child and save in your garage in any extra space you have, is this little number. My children don’t even exists yet and already they deserve it.

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I demand to know the last time you’ve seen a more perfect toy. Don’t worry, I’ll wait… It’s never happened! This would be so cute as a mobile library (there I go again with the books) or a snack cart or even just for your little ones to play store with stuff around the house. I love it so much I wanna buy it for my dogs. Okay, now I’ve gone too far.

Is there anything that I missed from this list that is a glaring hole like a seasons best seller or something that someone has bought for your little ones in the past that I need to get for the kiddos in my life? Let me know.

Xo Prepford Wife